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Somewhere round about page two hundred I found this was getting too difficult to read and I was obliged to turn to rereading Kafka s The Trial instead for some light relief Now I am not sure if it was just one particular thing that I found painful or the abrasive effect of two hundred pages catching at me.This book is part of a series although a completely freestanding book that apparently some Doctor s practises in the UK are providing or recommending view spoiler I m not sure which, please don t travel to Britain in the hope of finding that Doctors provide a parallel library system hide spoiler This is the first time I ve read a self help book and I found it immensely helpful, especially when utilized alongside therapy, my men s support group, and daily writing and journaling The book is focused on helping you overcome social anxiety and shyness, as you might be able to guess from the title It does a pretty good job, presenting the tools of cognitive behavioral therapy in very simple and effective ways, and backed up with plenty of exercises and hands on activities so you can put the lessons into practice Cognitive behavioral therapy is basically about learning how to change your thinking patterns to better reflect the life you wish to lead It sounds too simple to be real, but honestly thinking positively is a major part of it There s a lot to it of course, like identifying the patterns of thoughts that dominate your mind and where they come from, learning to craft a healthy self image, and building up confidence None of this is easy, but Gillian Butler makes it as simple as possible, so for those who suffer from shyness and lack of assertiveness, I recommend this book It s helped me already. I ve struggled with social anxiety for the longest of times My therapist recommended this book to me to read alongside my CBT sessions and to use as a general guide for my life.It s weird, because I ve never been able to speak about this Mainly due to the fact that I never knew I had social anxiety till the end of last year And due to my sessions, I ve seen such a vast improvement within myself.All to say that, if you re struggling with your mental health, it is okay and that the best thing you can do is to seek assistance for it No matter how much your brain and your own self let s be real, we are our biggest enemy tries to convince you that it is a minute problem, speak to your doctor You ll feel better for it, I promise. Who has never felt awkward, out of place or otherwise inhibited when relating to other people I for one, plead guilty The aim of this book, which as stated in the sub title is a self help manual, is to shed some light on this rather widespread psychological phenomenon that, generally speaking, we refer to a shyness.It is in fact a form of anxiety disorder, meaning a feeling of distress that is out of proportions considering the actual situation we are in Each individual is sensitive to different types of situations having to talk to a large audience stage fright , having to start a conversation with a stranger for instance if we consider the person as especially bright, important, sexually attractive, menacing, etc , you name it The fear associated with these types of situations are linked with thoughts like What I m saying is stupid , I will make a fool of myself , I ll be so embarrassed I ll wish the Earth will swallow me , people will see how I m sweating, blushing, etc In certain acute cases, this sort of social anxiety or phobia can be extremely painful and crippling the consequences are sadly obvious inability to perform at work, inability to find a romantic sexual partner, isolation, alcoholism, drug abuse, suicide This is not a trivial issue The CBT cognitive behavioral therapy model this book is based on is a research performed by Beck and Clark Cognitive Therapy of Anxiety Disorders Science and Practice The model essentially goes like this In a trigger situation see examples above the person feels anxious there can be many reasons for that feeling to kick in for instance, an unpleasant situation that is, fully consciously or not, brought back to memory The bout of anxiety translates in a series of assumptions or predictions He She They ll think I m stupid , based on underlying, toxic and in general erroneous beliefs I must make a good impression , I am stupid , people are judgmental , people don t like me As a result, three phenomena take place that fuel each other 1 self consciousness the person focuses his her attention on herself I am stuttering, blushing, shaking 2 symptoms of anxiety tension, suffocation, etc 3 safety behaviors keeping silent or over talking, leaving the room, changing the subject, hiding, swooning All these mental patterns and processes thoughts, behaviors, self consciousness tend to reinforce each other in a vicious circle What this book offers is a way to raise one s awareness of these things and break the social anxiety system The exercices in the appendices offer a series of experiments and worksheets that allow to question the underlying thought, beliefs and behaviors that keep the anxiety going, and ultimately get rid of them I myself found this book very enlightening and helpful. Not bad, but could have said the same things in much fewer words. Although I skimmed through quite a bit of a bit because it wasn t entirely relevant to me, there is some really useful information and tactics to use. Pretty good book in general I loved the tips shared between the pages on how to deal with shyness and social anxiety, and loved the fact that they distinguished between it and social anxiety However, one thing that I have to disagree is the point of view that bullies have high self esteem Very much on the contrary, bullies are people with high self esteem They feel really good about themselves And they are charismatic, they are confident, and they re cool I mean, in social psychology studies, we see the kids identified by the parents as awesome people were most of the time, bullies It really is a pity there isn t much research being done in this area to explore the correlations between bullying and social anxiety But overall, great read. Biased, inaccurate thinking can include predicting faults ahead of time, mind reading and catastrophizing during an event, and dwelling on a post mortem after an event Have to agree there.Lots of useful information in this book to help explain the hazards, and ways to prevent, living in a personal world ruled by anxiety I d give it 5 stars if it came with a therapist who d followup with you to make sure you write in your journal regularly like you re supposed to. {DOWNLOAD EPUB} ⚡ Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness (Overcoming) Ø Step By Step Guides To Self Improvement That Introduce The Methods Of The Highly Regarded Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Technique To Help Readers Conquer A Broad Range Of Disabling Conditions From Worry To Body Image Problems To Obsessive Compulsive Disorder And The Accessible, Straightforward, And Practical Books In The Overcoming Series Treat Disorders By Changing Unhelpful Patterns Of Behavior And Thought Cognitive Behavioral Therapy CBT Was Developed By Psychiatrist Aaron T Beck And Is Now Internationally Favored As A Practical Means Of Overcoming Longstanding And Disabling Conditions, Both Psychological And Physical CBT Insists That Our Thoughts Cause Our Feelings And Behaviors Even When Our Situation Does Not Change, If We Change The Self Defeating Ways We Think, We Can Make Ourselves Feel Better This Positive, Pragmatic Approach Is Popular With Therapists And Patients AlikeBooks In The Overcoming Series Highlight The History And Background Of The Disorder, Who Is Likely To Be Affected, And What The Main Symptoms Are Provide A Structure Ideal For Personal Use Or In A Program Using Guided Self Help Techniques Include Diagnostic Questionnaires, Case Studies, And Workbook Style Interactive Exercises Explore Step By Step Techniques Such As Diary And Record Keeping, Problem Solving, And Managing Symptoms Include Overviews Of All Treatment Options Offer Authoritative, Commonsense Solutions To Pervasive, Difficult Emotional Problems Are Highly Recommended By Experts Around The World And Offer Readers An Affordable And Easy To Follow Treatment Plan En fin bok med praktiske hjelpemidler for overkomme sosial prestasjonsangst.