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!Download Book ♻ One Big Happy Family: 18 Writers Talk About Polyamory, Open Adoption, Mixed Marriage, Househusbandry, Single Motherhood, and Other Realities of Truly Modern Love ☧ An Illuminating, Entertaining, And Provocative Immersion In Today S American Family, With Essays From ZZ Packer, Dan Savage, Min Jin Lee, Asha Bandele, Alisa Valdes Rodriguez, And Others, Illustrating The Changing Realities Of Domestic Life Edited By Bestselling Author Rebecca Walker, This Anthology Invites Us To Step Into The Center Of A Range Of Different Domestic Arrangements And Take A Good Look Around From Gay Adoption To Absentee Fathers, From Open Marriages To Green Card Marriages, The Reality Of The American Household Has Altered Dramatically Over The Last Three Decades With Changing Values And Expectations, Fluid Gender Roles, And A Shifting Economy, Along With Increase In Infertility, Adoption, And The Incidence Of Mixed Race Couples, People Across The Country Are Redefining The Standard Arrangement Of Family Life In A Collection Of Eighteen Honest, Personal, And Deeply Affecting Essays From An Array Of Writers, One Big Happy Family Offers A Fresh Look At How Contemporary Families Are Adapting To This Altering Reality Each Writing From The Perspective Of His Or Her Own Unique Domestic Arrangements And Priorities, The Authors Of These Essays Explore Topics Like Transracial Adoption, Bicultural Marriage And Children, Cohousing, Equal Parenting, And The Creation Of Virtual Families Dan Savage Writes About The Unexpected Responsibilities Of Open Adoption Jenny Block Tells Of The Pros And Cons Of Her Own Open Marriage ZZ Packer Explores The Ramifications Of, And Her Own Self Consciousness About, Having A Mixed Race Child Asha Bandele Writes Of Her Decision To Have A Child With A Man In Prison For Life And Min Jin Lee Points To The Intimacy Shared By A Mother And Her Child S Hired Caregiver All Of These Pieces Smartly Discuss The Various Cultural Pressures, Issues, And Realities For Families Today, In A Manner That Is Inviting And Accessible Sometimes Humorous, Sometimes Moving, Sometimes Shocking, But Always Fascinating
My husband calls me a voyeur I am fascinated with the way people live Straight up I like reading all those weird books about people s daily lives When I first joined Goodreads, I stumbled upon this book My voyeur sense started screaming, because I thought it would be interesting to read about people s lives And it was Some of the essays wereinteresting than others I thought the one about equal marriage was interesting and the ones that dealt with cross racial or cultural marriages The book was a pretty quick read and the essays are fairly short so if you re a voyeur like me, it shouldn t take you long to get through this one. I was actually hoping fromfor this book While many of the essays were individually moving, overall the book did not question the innate value of modern Western definitions of family Okay, maybe it s interracial, or the children are adopted, but the idea that family means parents children is never really questioned I was especially annoyed at the essay by Meredith Maran s Till Life Do Us Part which argued against divorce because SHE got divorced and so did her parents and it was HORRIBLE and made her two children all messed up so.well, really, there isn t a so There s just a and then I met a woman and even though we had a big fight we worked it out and we re still together Somehow, that s supposed to make the case against breaking up Very annoying.So a quick read with some interesting individual essays, but not nearly as radical or inclusive as I d hoped for. I m a sucker for books that give voice to the wide range of human experience Rebecca Walker edits essays that enforce the normality of deviant and different from an ordinary woman who finds herself initiating and sustaining romantic relationships outside of her marriage with her husband s consent to a couple who decide to have an unassisted birth at home to a white adoptive mother who mourns what could have been for her black daughter s birthmother to a black family that homeschools their sons after the disfunction, classism, and racism of conventional schooling becomes too much to bear to this one I found fascinating a single, straight man who helps a good friend conceive a child he has no desire to father As long partnered, unmarried person, I m always on the look out for families that reflect the one I ve built, and for families I d never imagine Rebecca Walker helps us to see what we usually cannot, and I m grateful Addendum I m upping my rating to 4 stars because how often does on read a collection that includes so many people of color that is not expressly about being of color Exactly Good job on that one, too Ms Walker. A really interesting stroll through many experiments in family structure and function I LOVED this book Each contributor brings something new to the table parenting, partnership, work at home and away, adoption, intercultural families If you d like to look at how others do this thing call family, I highly recommend this read. A couple of the essays in this collection spoke to me Most were okay I think I read too many blogs and know people with too many ideas of normal to find this particularly enlightening Good problem to have I suppose.I was also surprised to see that there was no mention of a partnered couple with no kids It felt like the author was assuming that family meant kids , which I disagree with. I read this in a day The stories are broken up really nicely, in different voices with different experiences that are fun to read about It also gave me some perspectives that I wouldn t have had otherwise Some of the stories are boring and a little cliche but overall it was a great read. So disappointing Reads like it s from the 90s Lots of straight couples who think it s radical to share labor be poly etc This is a really quick read and I ve already recommended it to several friends and would recommend it for anyone who has ever felt like their family or their idea of family is out of step with the norm The overwhelming sense that I brought away from this reading was that every family is different, every approach is different, and every family is beautiful Whether or not that is what the editor and authors intended, I do not know But it was nice to feel like the polyamorous LGBT life that I am currently leading does not preclude me from starting my own hodge podge family a few years down the road.Probably the most negative thing that I can say about this collection and the only reason why it does not get five stars is that a solid group of the stories had this air of smugness about them As if, the way they had worked it out was the most ideal form of a family Which is quite possible true for them , but not something that needed to come across in their writing One that was particularly guilty of this was Penn Nabrit s How Homeschooling Made Our Family More of What We Wanted it to Be which was my least favorite of the works in this anthology.Jenny Block s And Then We Were Poly was, in typical Block fashion, funny and engaging though not without it s own sense of this is the best way to do things The most interesting and heart warming ones, I thought, were Woman Up by asha bandele, The Enemy Within by Dan Savage, This Old House by Rebecca Berry, and My First Husband by Liz Monroy Though Monroy s piece left a few holes that I wish she had covered for example, why was it so important for her to divorce him because of an apartment All and all, an interesting, heartwarming read It will make anyone outside of the American nuclear family ideal a little less alone in the world. I found this to be a very interesting read I am always fascinating by families and parenting styles that are outside of the norm and how they all make it work I was especially interested in the family where the mom and dad split all duties 50 50 It s one thing to say you ll do that as a couple, but it s another to actually sit down and work it out I imagine that it can be frustrating as an ongoing process, but it sounds like the rewards are worth it I think it s amazing that they both work only 30 hours a week, and get to spend all of that extra free time with their children It really makes you think that we don t all need full work weeks and hectic schedules, but instead might be happier with just enough money to get by and extra time to be together as a family Being polyamorous I also enjoyed reading Jenny Block s essay and learning about her and her husband s joys and struggle with fully enjoying one another and letting one another truly be themselves That is something I ve always valued in friendship and relationships In the end you can only truly be happy in a relationship being yourself and not changing to be what you think the other person, or who society, wants you to be Being adopted I also enjoyed reading the adoption story of Dan Savage s son I still am open to possibly adopting one day and having one or both parents living on the streets or addicted to drugs would be a huge worry for me I d find it really hard to handle that both for my child and for myself Wanting to give them answers and sometimes not being able to find get ahold of their birth parent s to ask would be something I don t know if I could handle A great book with a little peek into the lives of modern families with many old school traditional family values.